Concerned about a friend?
If your friend’s drinking habits or drug use are worrying you, please feel empowered to use the following resources:
Disclaimer: The information provided on this page is not intended to diagnose, treat or provide a second opinion on any health problem or disease. It is meant to support, not replace, the relationship between an individual and his/her/their clinician.
What to look for…
- Are they drinking regularly?
- How many drinks are they having in one sitting?
- Are they saying that it’s affecting their health, physical or mental? Has your friend ever received medical care for something related to drinking or drug use? Have you noticed a decline in personal health or appearance?
- Are they drinking when they are unhappy, sad, anxious, or stressed?
- Do they have a family history of alcohol or other drug abuse/addiction?
- Are their friends or loved ones expressing concern about their drinking?
- Has your friend ever been in trouble because of drinking or drug use?
Talking to a friend
- It’s recommended to talk to them in a private space and when they are sober. The sooner you can arrange this after a concerning episode, the better.
- Express your concern and worry about the person. Use as many “I” statements as possible.
- Give the person a chance to answer – allow the silence to be awkward.
- Be prepared for them to deny that there is a problem.
- Let them know that they are not alone, and it’s okay to get help. Encourage them to moderate their behavior.
- Encourage your friend to consult with a professional to talk about their alcohol or substance use. Give them resources. Resources can be found at Alcohol and Other Drug Resources.
Ultimately, YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE if the person does not seek treatment or changes their behavior. Contact the CARE Team for a student if you have concerns about suspected alcohol or drug abuse.
The Community Healing Center provides both inpatient and outpatient treatment for substance abuse. Additionally, the center provides a weekly meeting for family and friends concerned about their loved one’s alcohol or drug use.
COPE provides a variety of resources for people who use substances or have a history of using substances, as well as resources for their loved ones and the community at large. To learn about the different programs offered, check out Current programs.
Serving those with mental health and/or substance use concerns, the Recovery Institute provides group sessions, classes, one-on-one session, and social outings. The Institute is led by peers who have navigated their own mental health or substance use issues.